TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please."
"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school."
On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker."
She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "
Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away "
#a new friend just forward this to me through email..jazakillah,sis umi.
16 July 2009
12 July 2009
si kecik bila nak jadi besar
dari kecik jadi besar..semua benda asalnya tiada, jadi ada, tiada lagi, ada lagi..
konfius? hehe cari fius lain!
konfius? hehe cari fius lain!
09 July 2009
tv
annas wrote in multiply...
"Dae Jang Guem"
am i suppose to watch this?maybe not..sebab tv merupakan hiburan dan jalan pembuangan masa yang paling berkesan..especially bagi penggemar tv..tapi cerita dae jang guem yang telah di upload kan dlm ruangan video annas tu berbaloi untuk dilihat..(depends on how your thinking la)
dae jang geum bukan hanya sebuah kisah lagenda biasa tapi kisah yang dapat direnungkan apa yang tersirat di dlmnya..walaupun mungkin berlainan pendapat,rasanya penonton yang pernah melihat kisah ni akan bersetuju dengan annas..(nape bunyi macam nak promote citer ni je?!)
faedah yg annas perolehi dr drama 'jewel in the palace' ni:
1- kegigihan dan kesungguhan dalam menuntut ilmu.
2- kesetiaan dan keteguhan dalam berpegang kpd kebenaran.
3- kedudukan wanita di dalam Islam.
4- semangat persahabatan juga semangat bersaing dgn adil.
...dan banyak lagi..kadang2 bila tengok orang korea tunduk memberi hormat pada ketua atau orang yg lebih tua..dengan sopan dan lembutnya..terfikir gerak geri muslim ketika mengadap kiblat menyempurnakan solat..apakah selembut dan sesopan orang korea juga?
...jang geum yang berusaha belajar,daripada 'kuliah' dayang istana kemudian ke 'kuliah' perubatan pula..apa usaha muslim juga begitu?walau drama dari korea ini cuma sekadar cerita (dan kisah2 para sahabat dan tabiin lebih wajar diteliti)..tapi sebenarnya,di sekeliling kita terdapat segala yang patut kita renungkan..ye,terpulang saje pada gaya dan cara kita berfikir..
we choose what we want to see..and hopefully we get what we want in what we saw..and it'll be best if what we got is what best for our life! (why do i feel a bit dizzy? ;p )
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#saje post balik kat sini pasal terfikir nak terminate aje blog kat multiply tu..no time nak post any entry there.huhu..
##tv sekarang ni memang berpengaruh betul..anak sekecil iyas pun boleh tertarik..kata abu saif dalam ANIS, nak kena ajar pada anak tentang kuasa memilih..
###cuba sedaya upaya untuk istinbath benda2 bermanfaat je dari cerita tv! just finish another korean drama..citer 'legend of prince Ju Mong'..very interesting!
1-pemimpin yang baik akan hasilkan anak buah yang baik..
2-practise makes perfect!(Ju Mong belajar memanah dengan bersungguh2..bila la annas pun nak pandai memanah?huhu)
3-al haq bila nizom yughlibuhul batil bi nizom..(orang kafir pun amalkan sistem syura, kita muslim suka benor wat mesyuarat tak rasmi bangkang balik apa yang dah disyurakan!)
yakfi la tu, dapat 3 benda dari Ju Mong and his new country..
adios!
07 July 2009
semanis bint as sahn
salam..sekarang bulan Rejab, tentu ramai yang puasa sunat. Saat berbuka tentu ada kuih terhidang..time pose ginila yg byk mengimbas kembali kenangan..di sana ada satu juadah yang buat annas rindu, 'honey cake' kata org dlm internet..
org sana panggil 'bint as sahn'..makan dgn madu..emm best nye!annas suka makan kuih ni, antara juadah sana yang diminati selain dari sanbusah..tapi tak sempat blaja camana buatnya..
search kat internet resipinya, annas jumpa artikel kat bawah ni ..
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During the Ottoman occupation of Yemen, Yemenis were heavily affected by Ottoman influence on many aspects of their lives. Their impact affected Yemeni food as well, about which many old people tell different stories of their origins.
There are no documents that heritage and culture investigators base their findings on when talking about food origins in Yemen. “You might depend on tales from old men and women when researching food,” said Faiza Jahaff, director of Our House for Heritage. “Another way is to depend on your knowledge of Yemeni history and then start analyzing and connecting ideas to come out with an acceptable conclusion about the origins of food in Yemen.”
‘Helbah’ is a name given to the seeds of a tree also called Helbah, and it is very important in making the quintessential Yemeni dish Saltah, which includes potato, soup, sometimes meat, and any number of other ingredients. Helbah is added to these ingredients at the final stage of preparing this dish.
Research into the matter supports that Yemenis knew of Helbah before they started making Saltah. Jahhaf is one of these interested investigators who agrees with this notion. She emphasized that Yemenis knew about Helbah before the Ottomans came to Yemen. With the Ottomans came a dish called ‘Torbeil,’ what is known today as ‘Mahshi,’ and they used to add and collect other kinds of food to make what is today’s Saltah. However, Saltah differs from one area to another; people differ on how they present this dish depending on the food available. For example, those who live in the mountains and highlands prepare Saltah with the traditional soup base, potato, and a Helbah sauce on top. In coastal areas however, people use Helbah seeds which they add to ‘Porridge,’ calling it ‘Aseed Mokarhat’ because it is mixed directly with Helbah seeds instead of mashing them up into a sauce.
Although it was discovered that the main Sana’ni dish is borrowed from the Ottomans, there are dishes that are considered as Yemeni heritage such as ‘Porridge’ and ‘Hareesh.’
Social stories accompanied the existence of some Yemeni dishes such as ‘Bint Al-Sahn’ which mean ‘the girl or daughter of the plate’ and is a flaky bread dish covered in honey. This dish was traditionally presented to the man who wanted to ask for the hand of a family’s daughter. The stories relate that when a man asks about the girl, they tell him to look at how she prepared the Bint Al-Sahn to measure what kind of future wife she will be.
Sweets are also found in the Yemeni menu. Nowadays, the well-known sweet ‘Rawani’ is spread mainly throughout Old Sana’a. However, it is claimed that this sweet is not actually Yemeni but was introduced by Ottoman soldiers. During that time, the soldiers’ families used to send cake to the soldiers that would dry out on the way due to the long distance to Yemen. When soldiers finally got these dried out cakes, they would fill them with water and sugar. This dish became wildly popular even amongst the locals, and is still here long after the Ottomans are gone.
Generally speaking, Arab and Islamic cultures are found to be fairly well integrated and share many aspects among themselves. Investigators said that it was because of the Islamic movement among these countries in the past. When the Islamic armies and movement spread, they influenced different cultures and were influenced by them in turn.
“When I traveled to Morocco, Tunisia and many other countries, I found the same porridge that is here in Yemen to be there in those countries. This supports the assumption that cultures were and are integrating with each other directly or indirectly,” noted Jahaff.
Moreover, the presentation of some dishes around the Arab world is similar. What is known in Yemen as ‘Hareesh’ is similar to ‘Borgol’ in Egypt, and ‘Mansaf’ in Jordan is presented in a similar way as how ‘Couscous’ in Morocco is done. Sharing the same dish from different countries indicates that cultures were connecting with each other in the past to at least some extent which allowed a kind of unity in dishes among vastly different countries.
The problem in this area, as Jahaff pointed out, is that when university students want to see documents in order to be used in their research, they don’t find any written proof that preserves Yemeni identity either in food, clothing, or any other form of cultural heritage.
“There is no support from the government and people are not aware that our food indicates that we are a rich country where most of our dishes depend on seeds. This is proof of our agricultural richness,” Jahaff said.
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oooooo..gitu citernyer, waktu di sana tak banyak ambik tau..sekarang dah jauh dah mula merindu..hehe..kadang2 lepak kat youtube semata2 utk nikmati video pemandangan di sana!huhu..rindu tahap gaban nih!
org sana panggil 'bint as sahn'..makan dgn madu..emm best nye!annas suka makan kuih ni, antara juadah sana yang diminati selain dari sanbusah..tapi tak sempat blaja camana buatnya..
search kat internet resipinya, annas jumpa artikel kat bawah ni ..
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During the Ottoman occupation of Yemen, Yemenis were heavily affected by Ottoman influence on many aspects of their lives. Their impact affected Yemeni food as well, about which many old people tell different stories of their origins.
There are no documents that heritage and culture investigators base their findings on when talking about food origins in Yemen. “You might depend on tales from old men and women when researching food,” said Faiza Jahaff, director of Our House for Heritage. “Another way is to depend on your knowledge of Yemeni history and then start analyzing and connecting ideas to come out with an acceptable conclusion about the origins of food in Yemen.”
‘Helbah’ is a name given to the seeds of a tree also called Helbah, and it is very important in making the quintessential Yemeni dish Saltah, which includes potato, soup, sometimes meat, and any number of other ingredients. Helbah is added to these ingredients at the final stage of preparing this dish.
Research into the matter supports that Yemenis knew of Helbah before they started making Saltah. Jahhaf is one of these interested investigators who agrees with this notion. She emphasized that Yemenis knew about Helbah before the Ottomans came to Yemen. With the Ottomans came a dish called ‘Torbeil,’ what is known today as ‘Mahshi,’ and they used to add and collect other kinds of food to make what is today’s Saltah. However, Saltah differs from one area to another; people differ on how they present this dish depending on the food available. For example, those who live in the mountains and highlands prepare Saltah with the traditional soup base, potato, and a Helbah sauce on top. In coastal areas however, people use Helbah seeds which they add to ‘Porridge,’ calling it ‘Aseed Mokarhat’ because it is mixed directly with Helbah seeds instead of mashing them up into a sauce.
Although it was discovered that the main Sana’ni dish is borrowed from the Ottomans, there are dishes that are considered as Yemeni heritage such as ‘Porridge’ and ‘Hareesh.’
Social stories accompanied the existence of some Yemeni dishes such as ‘Bint Al-Sahn’ which mean ‘the girl or daughter of the plate’ and is a flaky bread dish covered in honey. This dish was traditionally presented to the man who wanted to ask for the hand of a family’s daughter. The stories relate that when a man asks about the girl, they tell him to look at how she prepared the Bint Al-Sahn to measure what kind of future wife she will be.
Sweets are also found in the Yemeni menu. Nowadays, the well-known sweet ‘Rawani’ is spread mainly throughout Old Sana’a. However, it is claimed that this sweet is not actually Yemeni but was introduced by Ottoman soldiers. During that time, the soldiers’ families used to send cake to the soldiers that would dry out on the way due to the long distance to Yemen. When soldiers finally got these dried out cakes, they would fill them with water and sugar. This dish became wildly popular even amongst the locals, and is still here long after the Ottomans are gone.
Generally speaking, Arab and Islamic cultures are found to be fairly well integrated and share many aspects among themselves. Investigators said that it was because of the Islamic movement among these countries in the past. When the Islamic armies and movement spread, they influenced different cultures and were influenced by them in turn.
“When I traveled to Morocco, Tunisia and many other countries, I found the same porridge that is here in Yemen to be there in those countries. This supports the assumption that cultures were and are integrating with each other directly or indirectly,” noted Jahaff.
Moreover, the presentation of some dishes around the Arab world is similar. What is known in Yemen as ‘Hareesh’ is similar to ‘Borgol’ in Egypt, and ‘Mansaf’ in Jordan is presented in a similar way as how ‘Couscous’ in Morocco is done. Sharing the same dish from different countries indicates that cultures were connecting with each other in the past to at least some extent which allowed a kind of unity in dishes among vastly different countries.
The problem in this area, as Jahaff pointed out, is that when university students want to see documents in order to be used in their research, they don’t find any written proof that preserves Yemeni identity either in food, clothing, or any other form of cultural heritage.
“There is no support from the government and people are not aware that our food indicates that we are a rich country where most of our dishes depend on seeds. This is proof of our agricultural richness,” Jahaff said.
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oooooo..gitu citernyer, waktu di sana tak banyak ambik tau..sekarang dah jauh dah mula merindu..hehe..kadang2 lepak kat youtube semata2 utk nikmati video pemandangan di sana!huhu..rindu tahap gaban nih!
02 July 2009
flower
Kurang suka..itu perkataan pertama bermain di minda bila ditanya tentang bunga..kata orang, apa la perempuan..skit2 bunga,skit2 nak bunga..hari lahir nak bunga, hari kawin nak bunga,asyik nak bunga je.. mak kata, perempuan ibarat bunga, cantik, wangi…ye ke,mak? Tapi ada jugak bunga kurang cantik, kurang wangi..kalau lalu dekat bunga tahi ayam tu..tak gemar betul!
Kata orang lagi, bunga bukan sekuntum! Maksudnya, perempuan bukan seorang. Orang yang pernah putus cinta mungkin biasa dengar nasihat sebegini..ye lah, lagi2 akhir zaman ni memanglah perempuan nampak lagi ramai daripada lelaki..sebab lelaki ramai yang sedang ‘berehat’ dalam pusat pemulihan dan lain2 ‘tempat berehat’…
Apa ada pada bunga? Kat rumah annas sekarang takde pun bunga..baik bunga hidup (original) atau pun spesis jadi-jadian ( bunga tiruan)..kat kedai, dok sah tanya la..melambak2 kat kedai bunga tu..nak yang murah,ada..yang mahal, tentulah lagi banyak,kan?
Emm..ada orang bagi bunga, hari ibu, hari guru..hari bapa tak la kot. Ada bagi bunga ros, bunga raya pun ada..sekali dapat bunga kertas..hehe. Al muhim, dapat diperhatikan bahawa bunga memang disenangi orang khususnya si dia yang bergelar perempuan!
Apa ada pada bunga? Ini tafsir bunga..
ORKID @ sahlabiyyatun (arab) @ orchid (inggeris)
-cinta,mewah,rare and delicate beauty..
DAISI @ zahratur rabi’e @ daisy
-innocence, suci
TULIP @ at tulibu @ tulip
-elegance, masyhur, caring
MELUR @ yasminun @ jasmine
-grace and elegance
KEKWA @ uqhuwanun @ chrysanthemum
-ceria, jujur
BUNGA RAYA @ khubbazatun @ hibiscus
-delicate beauty
CEMPAKA @ jambaka @ gardenia
-riang gembira
TERATAI @ nailufarun ma iyyun @ lily
-suci, persahabatan, kemewahan
Ok, begitulah serba sikit mafhum bunga yang direka orang. Bagi annas, semua bunga tu sama je..yang beza Cuma bentuknya,wanginya,warnanya..dalam Quran pun ada sebut bunga,kan? Kalau tak silap dalam surah Ar Rahman, ayat 37. Jap, nak belek Quran..
“maka apabila langit telah terbelah dan menjadi merah mawar seperti (kilauan) minyak.”
Dan selepas ini, ayuh kita cari hikmahnya bunga dicipta untuk tatapan kita..
Kata orang lagi, bunga bukan sekuntum! Maksudnya, perempuan bukan seorang. Orang yang pernah putus cinta mungkin biasa dengar nasihat sebegini..ye lah, lagi2 akhir zaman ni memanglah perempuan nampak lagi ramai daripada lelaki..sebab lelaki ramai yang sedang ‘berehat’ dalam pusat pemulihan dan lain2 ‘tempat berehat’…
Apa ada pada bunga? Kat rumah annas sekarang takde pun bunga..baik bunga hidup (original) atau pun spesis jadi-jadian ( bunga tiruan)..kat kedai, dok sah tanya la..melambak2 kat kedai bunga tu..nak yang murah,ada..yang mahal, tentulah lagi banyak,kan?
Emm..ada orang bagi bunga, hari ibu, hari guru..hari bapa tak la kot. Ada bagi bunga ros, bunga raya pun ada..sekali dapat bunga kertas..hehe. Al muhim, dapat diperhatikan bahawa bunga memang disenangi orang khususnya si dia yang bergelar perempuan!
Apa ada pada bunga? Ini tafsir bunga..
ORKID @ sahlabiyyatun (arab) @ orchid (inggeris)
-cinta,mewah,rare and delicate beauty..
DAISI @ zahratur rabi’e @ daisy
-innocence, suci
TULIP @ at tulibu @ tulip
-elegance, masyhur, caring
MELUR @ yasminun @ jasmine
-grace and elegance
KEKWA @ uqhuwanun @ chrysanthemum
-ceria, jujur
BUNGA RAYA @ khubbazatun @ hibiscus
-delicate beauty
CEMPAKA @ jambaka @ gardenia
-riang gembira
TERATAI @ nailufarun ma iyyun @ lily
-suci, persahabatan, kemewahan
Ok, begitulah serba sikit mafhum bunga yang direka orang. Bagi annas, semua bunga tu sama je..yang beza Cuma bentuknya,wanginya,warnanya..dalam Quran pun ada sebut bunga,kan? Kalau tak silap dalam surah Ar Rahman, ayat 37. Jap, nak belek Quran..
“maka apabila langit telah terbelah dan menjadi merah mawar seperti (kilauan) minyak.”
Dan selepas ini, ayuh kita cari hikmahnya bunga dicipta untuk tatapan kita..
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